During these days of November many people pause to remember our loved ones who have died. People are eager to embrace this reflective time. It is not a weird or a strange thing to do but can be a very meaningful experience and one that can also bring healing. For many the pain of grief and the pain of losing a loved one through death can be so difficult. The loss of a loved one can leave such a gap and their absence is felt in so many different ways. With time the pain may lessen but it is never fully gone.

During November there is always healing and comfort in remembering those who have died. Prayers are said in many churches for those who have died. Others will visit the grave of a loved one, light a candle, bring some flowers or flick through a photo album to touch in on memories. Whatever we do is always going to be personal for us and that’s all that matters. We are thankful for the many ways in which our loved ones shaped us, cared for us and loved us. We are who we are today because of those whose lives have touched ours. We also have let our lives touch theirs. That is the connection and bond. It can be incredibly strong. When it is broken through death it is so final and our lives are thrown completely upside down. The invitation during these days of November as we reflect, remember and pray is to be gentle with yourself. You are not on your own and hopefully you will find some healing and comfort in whatever journey you are on.